5 Things Cis People Can Actually Do For Trans People (Now That You Care About Us)

It’s been a weird year for trans people.

Allow me to be more specific: It’s been a heated, daring, tumultuous, graphic, specularizing, aggressive, pointed, contentious, highly fatal, and really, really complicated year for trans people.

Here are a few examples: Kristina Gomez Reinwald, Ty Underwood, Lamia Beard, and many other transwomen of color have been brutally murdered at the hands of lovers, family members, and strangers. Meanwhile, Laverne Cox and Janet Mock have come to fame and exhibited incredible feats of grace, articulation, and poignancy under the gaze of an eager media. Blake Brockington, Leelah Alcorn, Taylor Alesana, and many other transgender youth have committed suicide after enduring endless bullying and systematic brutality. Meanwhile, Jazz Jennings became the new face of Clean & Clear and published a children’s picture book about her life, and teen trans couple Arin Andrews and Katie Hill (best known for “Can You Even Believe They’re Trans?!” types of headlines) wrote and published individual books about their very public relationship and their mutual transitions. Transman Aydian Dowling took a dramatic lead in the Men’s Health cover contest, and newly out Caitlyn Jenner displayed her insta-transition on the cover of Vanity Fair. Meanwhile, trans people without the genetic predisposition/material wealth/desire to transition into cisnormatively beautiful bodies are disproportionately homeless, or sexually exploited, or incarcerated, or dead.

So, to recap: Transwomen are either models of cisnormative beauty, or they’re dead. Trans youth are either models of cisnormative beauty, or they’re dead. Transmen are either models of cisnormative beauty, or they simply don’t exist. This is the landscape for trans media representation in 2015.

I’m not saying 2015 has offered nothing in the way of pride and productivity for trans people. I’m not even saying the events being applauded as progress are totally useless. But interpretations of ‘pride’ and ‘productivity’ for transgender Americans, as exemplified by Media representation in 2015, have left most of us transfolks (particularly the ones desperate for space and resources) still silenced by louder, more privileged, more lucrative, and more entertaining trans narratives.

If nothing else can be said about this weird cultural climate, it has certainly established a whole gaggle of cisgender people claiming to want to be good advocates for transfolks. The problem, of course, is most new “allies” seem to think reposting Caitlyn Jenner’s reveal photo entitles them to a freshly baked ally cookie, and anyone (even transfolks) challenging the ways they think about transfolks sends them into an immediate cis-savior defensiveness downspiral. Thanks to the Media, even cis people calling themselves “allies” still think they know more about trans people than trans people do, and they are more than happy to tell transfolks to shut up when they don’t like what they’re hearing.

I am here to tell you that I have no cookies to offer. If you still want to be an advocate for transgender people, then you may actually care about transgender people. Neat. Read on.

Here is a short list of standards and principles you can integrate into your daily life to be an all around better person, and to do something with your cisgender privilege (beyond asking pronouns and not asking stupid questions, which are also important) in the era of armchair activism.

1. Shut up.

If one more cis person tells me they’re “entitled to their opinion” about this whole Caitlyn Jenner thing, I’m gonna go pre-maturely gray.  When trans people are talking about trans things, stop talking and listen. Turn down the volume on your cis privilege and take your sound-cancelling defensiveness headphones off. When a trans person says, “This media story makes me uncomfortable,” you can say, “Do you want to say more about that?” You cannot say, “You’re thinking about this all wrong!” When a trans person says, “I am really frustrated by the way I’m feeling/being treated,” you can say “Is there something I can do to support you?” You cannot say “But imagine how much worse it could be!” The number one best thing you can do as a cis person advocating for trans people is remember that trans people are experts on their own lives, and though we may or may not be open to hearing it, we don’t actually need your opinion.

2. Show up.

As a cisgender person, regardless of your other intersecting identities, you are privileged with spaces and resources that trans people are not afforded. You may or may not be aware of what these privileges are or how they affect your daily life, but I assure you they are there. Depending on where you find yourself in the matrix of oppression and privilege, there are a variety of ways you might use your position to support transgender people. Can you give $1000 to your friend’s surgery fund? Amazing, do that. Can you give $5? Fabulous, do that then. Do you parent or work with kids? Identify gender-positive youth work or parenting practices that allow your young people to make their own choices about gender expression. Do you work in management or administration? Help ensure your space is safer and more accessible for trans folks, like supporting trans-inclusive hiring practices. Going out to dinner with a friend who’s trans? Choose a place they’ll be able to pee. Micro or macro, just do what you can, and don’t be a dick about it.

3. Stop crying.

Despite the many severe trials and tribulations experienced by transgender communities, it ain’t all bad. While I certainly appreciate the support I have received from my family and peers, the “gosh, you’re just so brave” line is more than a little exhausting. We are people capable of all kinds of emotions: bravery and fear, celebration and crisis, love and pain, and plenty in between. Most of us have some people we call family or friends, most of us have some hobbies and interests we enjoy, most of us laugh as much if not more than we cry. Trans people, like disabled people or homeless people or otherwise seemingly “tragic” people, do not exist to be your inspiration porn. Show us your pride in us by letting both our pains and our successes be our own.

4. Remember we walk among you.

Turns out not all trans people are celebrities (even if we are in our own heads). In fact, despite our transitions, most of us have incredibly boring lives. I won’t say we’re no different from cisgender people, as that’s certainly not the case. But we do drive the same streets as you, and go to the same schools as you, and shop in the same stores as you.  If there are trans people in your life, remember we are more than our gender identities. If you are in public, remember there’s probably a trans person within earshot. Remember we are real people with real lives and real needs, working at jobs and living in homes if we’re so privileged, and we need real, honest, authentic advocates to support us in the parts of survival that feel hard. And we also probably don’t want to talk to you about Caitlyn Jenner anymore.

5. Get your information about trans people from trans people.

That doesn’t mean open season on questions about trans politics for any trans person you encounter. Being a trans person who studies and writes gender theory, I am usually somewhere on the happy-to-okay scale about having these conversations with people, but not all trans people live in that sort of headspace. There are an abundance of transfolk writers, scholars, and activists that continuously publish work on any and all aspects of transgender identity, and they are certainly less likely to include/reproduce icky rhetorical errors and factual inaccuracies than cis people writing on the same things. Plus, reading a narrative that a trans person has published with the intent of being read is a much less invasive way of absorbing information than prodding your token trans acquaintance for answers. Some texts are certainly more academic than others, and those can prove difficult to access intellectually if you are not familiar with gender/social theory fields. If you’re new to this whole thing, start with a few gentle reads: Transgender Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue by Leslie Feinberg, Whipping Girl by Julia Serano, and Redefining Realness by Janet Mock are all excellent places to start. Just read a book, goddammit.

That’s it. That’s all I got. You take it from here.

  

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  1. Reblogged this on Transcend ❤ and commented:
    A wonderful read!

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  2. Thank you for sharing this, I really enjoyed reading an alternate perspective (alternate from friends)..

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  3. The fact that people have an opinion, whether you agree with it or not, is a good thing in that trans issues are being brought to the forefront. Now, more than ever, transgender is becoming mainstream in a non-derogatory manner. Gone are the ridiculous stereotypes of the past. Regardless of opinions of Caitlyn Jenner and her quest to transition into a female, she is creating a dialogue. Why not use it to benefit the transgender community by lobbying for insurance to cover surgeries, counseling, and other needs that the transgender community may have?
    Perhaps, the best thing that trans and cis people should adhere to is that one cannot judge another’s reality based on their own.

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  4. The idea that we have to cater to and baby people who have privilege (and i have privilege as well) is what has been bothering me lately in a lot of discussions that are going on. Because if this were a nice, sweet article a lot of people would a) not even listen and b) not take the time to comment at all. Making people angry can definitely ostracize them but at least its a goddamn reaction. I only learned HOW MUCH i still need to learn in the last 2 years. I would be so annoyed to talk to the person i was back then because i definitely would have been a knee jerk person. Growth happens and i believe there has been a huge consciousness shift in the last couple years and it will continue to happen. Look, being kind and gentle and meek doesnt cause a reaction. For those who are yelling in anger when the biggest point is to shut up and listen, i hope you will have your moment of realization soon. And maybe it will come over time. If this article made you instantly defensive it may be you the author is talking about. Catering to a privileged person’s feelings is less important than validating how minorities in this country are feeling. The opposite of oppression is not oppression. Your feelings on matters you cant relate to are not valid. As she says on roseanne “hey you know on your phone? Do you ever use the top part of that??” Going out on a roseanne quote like a boss

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  5. Coming from a cis person. I get your point. I don’t want the cookie but I might as well buy and share it with you. Just what friends do.

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  6. Reblogged this on mrmehra06 and commented:
    great

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  7. call me crazy, but i genuinely sense that some trans people would feel lost if they were to one day wake up in a perfect world where the distinction doesn’t (need to) exist.

    it’s like the author wants to be understood, he wants these “cis privileges”, but at the same time, he doesn’t want them. he’s owned his pain from his negative experiences as a trans, and now it’s like his identity surrounds being in pain and not being understood.

    he’s owned his marginalization, encompassed it into his identity, and doesn’t actually want to acknowledge any progress in that realm for fear of what it could do to his identity. therefore, he inadvertently tries to discourage well-intentioned, yet possibly ignorant people.

    now i know i’ve made some BOLD statements, but here’s why:

    i wouldn’t lash out and try to discourage the well-intentioned. how do i know they’re well-intentioned? i don’t, but let’s assume that if someone wants to advocate for you or be an ally, they’re well-intentioned.

    if you want change, and a well-intentioned yet ignorant or misinformed person offers their support, you simply point them in the right direction. if you don’t want change, be it consciously or subconsciously, you kindly decline, or more subtly, you accept and then discourage them by some means. hostility usually works!

    i mean “cis-privilege”? that was the first time i ever encountered that phrase, and i hate it! because i have a vagina, and i feel like it belongs there, i’m privileged?

    i am a black, left-handed, cis-woman, homosexual in a white, right-handed, cis-man, heterosexual world. did the author stop to think about those kinds of people? or was he too high up on his holier-than-thou horse to see things in detail?

    margins exist everywhere. why should the trans margin be an exclusive space about which only trans people can discuss? it’s not fair and metaphorically elitist.

    i’m sure that black people in the states welcome white allies.
    i’m sure that women welcome men as feminist allies.
    and i’m sure all of this would occur with full realization of their “white” and “penis” privileges.

    surely, one can sympathize without understanding.

    now, about the whole caitlyn jenner thing. nobody thinks the world is perfect now. i really don’t understand what the author was trying to imply at the beginning of the blog. it just so happens that nobody cares about you until you’re famous. point blank. we know the struggle continues.

    yes, the author’s right. people say dumb shit, people think they know more about things they couldn’t possibly understand, and in general, people are just… annoying. but those are NOT trans-only issues. they’re just some of those “life” things that trans and non-trans people have to face everyday, unfortunately.

    how can the author say that cis-people can’t have an opinion? yes, i agree… it would be audacious of me to write a book on trans-related issues, but i don’t think it would be audacious of me to have an opinion. who the hell has the power to tell someone that they can’t have an opinion on this side of the world? the side of the world where we can freely discuss such topics.

    lastly, and on a slightly different note, if you are uncomfortable discussing caitlyn jenner, yet feel like the media is stealing and tainting trans narratives, and that cis people are misinformed and have no way of understanding, then how the hell do you expect it to stop? just makes no sense to me whatsoever.

    i found the author’s blog to be negative, entitled, discouraging, condescending, and almost trans-elitist, but if i sent him that response, he’d probably ignore everything i’ve said, because no, i’m not trans, and therefore, yes, i’m out of line for having an opinion.

    jesus christ! rant over.

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    • That’s a lot of time and energy, just to say “no” to number one.
      (Hint: Reactions to number one are pretty much how we can tell who is well intentioned and who is not.)

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      • well das, thanks for commenting on how much effort i put into the post without even directly addressing a SINGLE point. (hint: reacting to the person and not the points is how we can usually tell that our point was made well and that you have nothing valid to say in response).

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      • Yes, attacking the messenger rather than engaging and discussing the message is a tactic used by many transgender people on the internet. It is antagonistic and a continuation of the tone of the original blog.

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      • I’m sure you like to think that.

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    • No, @Squidwordsmith, you are not privileged just because you have a vagina and you like it. Your privilege comes from living in a culture that defines and treats you as normal because you have a vagina and at least act like you want it. Privilege comes from the responses of others. It doesn’t simply rest within you. Change requires the disruption of what is defined as normal and thus rewarded (or punished). I too have taken the long journey of understanding this’s. It still a work in progress. My own less privileged statuses have served as a bridge of understanding to those who are stigmatized in our society (based on any social status “infraction” – that is, not being what someone of your “type” is expected to be within a particular culture). My progress has been furthered by listening, stumbling, accidentally hurting people and also, by standing by a less privileged persons side, regardless of the cost to me (and even then, I seldom carry the full risk of sanctioning that my targeted stigmatized friend).

      We have to take our own sense of worth out of the equation when dealing with our own defensiveness of our privileges. I can still be a good person even though I had the luck/chance/decision of being/looking like/acting like what people expect. I think that our defensiveness also reflects a deeply buried cultural assumption of a “just world hypothesis” – that people get what they deserve. It is not unthinkable that perhaps at a subconscious level, we see our privilege as a reflection of our deservinness. And so we find our selves frustrated, or even angry, that someone calls into account our privilege! And deservingness.

      We can also have the same response when we INTERPET the challenge to our privilege as an attempt to make us be “guilty” for something, as if we are a bad person. Please note the emphasis on thee word “interpret” – because that’s our reaction, but not necessarily the objective of a critical stance regarding social hierarchies. Guilt is all my own, and does nothing for anyone else. Guilt is self-serving, it’s a psychological proof that I’m a good person because I feel guilty. So what, you feel guilty, so what are going to do to change things. Most people simply stop at guilt, as if it’s all about them, not those being treated as inferior, as abnormal, even some kind of threat to our society.

      That might be why “normals” (people who look/act/are as they are socially expected to be, then positve of abnormal or stigmatized) get all pissy and tell their (gay, trans, bi, black, female, and/or disabled, ect) friends to stop always being so negative or “having a chip on their shoulder” – normals don’t see why they should have to hear all this stuff that reminds them that the world isn’t fair, and that they have privilege their friend doesn’t have. We normals (and we are all normal, or privileged in some way in some contexts in comparison to others) forget that our stigmatized friend has to live with their stigma,named lack of privilege, every day, every moment, and while wen Ann one and forget about it , they don’t have that option. As if that’s not bad enough, we normals expect our stigmatized “friends” (depending on how one defines friends) to cater to our comfort – to insure we are not made to feel so bad, or uncomfortable, or even guilty. We ultimately take our privilege for granted, because we tend to see our comfort as more important than that of our less fortunate friend. (My references may seem outdated here – I am an “old” scholarly woman – but they do come from good old classic, I highly recommend: Erving Goffman’s Stigma for great basic understanding of stigma – just don’t get hung up on his archaic language).

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      • hi drovist, thanks for your response! i did take away quite a bit from it. certainly more than i did from the author’s draggy blog.

        i guess i am privileged by virtue of how others see me, but not necessarily by virtue of how i see myself, which ultimately should be the major deciding factor. however, to draw this binary whereby cis are privileged and trans are oppressed and victimized is to COMPLETELY forego ALL the other INTERSECTIONAL margins in our society.

        in addition, you’ve caused me to consider the deeper reasons for my defensiveness, so thanks. so far though, this is what i’ve come up with as to why the phrase “cis privilege” irks me so…

        cis women have it easier than trans women, but cis women are still oppressed by cis men.

        black cis-gendered people still have it easier than black and white trans people, but black people are still oppressed by whites.

        cis lesbians and gays have it easier than trans gays and lesbians, but cis gays and lesbians are still oppressed by heterosexual cis people.

        that was my point. pain and oppression is not limited only to the sphere of trans people. therefore, privilege cannot be afforded to cis people because we face oppression in many different contexts.

        the author has some internal complex that serves as a coping mechanism for his pain. it’s an inferiority complex that manifests itself outwardly as a superiority complex… a vile manifestation.

        no one group can claim oppression upon themselves exclusively. duh??

        i’ve never been shot, but i’ve been hit by a car. regardless of which would be higher up on the pain scale, pain is pain, and therefore, if i’m to use my less privileged statuses to empathize with trans people, as you’ve suggested, then they should consider doing the same, instead of stomping their feet like huffy little children and demanding that they have their way and that we bend over with guilt for being born happy with who we are.

        i will say it once again… trans people are NOT special, and if they want people to hear them out, if they want people to care, and if they actually want change, then they should keep that in mind when they’re addressing their well-intentioned cis-friends or whomever.

        it’s like one guy commented on here – the gay rights movement gained ground because we were fighting for EQUAL rights, to have the SAME things as heteros, not more than heteros. people are less apt jump on a bandwagon that’s perched up on some high horse.

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  8. This is great, I’m so glad to be living in a century where being trans is relatively more accepted and is no longer that much of a “taboo” (I’m aware that there’s still a ton of narrow minded people out there against it tho)

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  9. Reblogged this on aireenangela and commented:
    How I wish everyone could read this article and that each one sees the other equally and fairly. 👍

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  10. Thank you so much for the helpful and crystal clear suggestions! Will definitely take note of all this. More power to you!

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  11. I really like point number 5. And it doesn’t just apply to trans people but to all marginalized groups. Often times somebody will say something and I ask “Oh where did you get that info?” And I am met with a blank stare or an “It’s just a fact, I don’t know where I heard it.” The way we keep groups of people oppressed is by spouting misinformation about them. So make sure if you say something about a specific group of people that you heard that info from a member of that group. Nice piece, thanks!

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  12. > Shut up. If one more cis person tells me they’re “entitled to their opinion” about this whole Caitlyn Jenner thing, I’m gonna go pre-maturely gray. When trans people are talking about trans things, stop talking and listen.

    Are you aware that by claiming you have the right (as a transperson) to tell non-trans people to shut up you are literally claiming to have the very thing you accuse them of (privilege)?

    Do you find the following remark offensive?….. “Shut up. When non-trans people are talking about non-trans things, stop talking and listen”. ….. If you do find that offensive, doesn’t that make you a hypocrite?

    > Turn down the volume on your cis privilege

    The freedom to have and express an opinion is not a privilege, or a cis privilege, or a white male privilege, or an able bodied heteronormal gender binary conforming white cis male privilege ………. it is simply a human right.

    > When a trans person says, “This media story makes me uncomfortable,” you *can* say, “Do you want to say more about that?” You *cannot* say, “You’re thinking about this all wrong!”

    So you are literally asserting your right to tell other human beings what they can or cannot think, believe and express as their opinion. And in this politically correct culture we now have, hardly anybody will call you out for trying to limit another group’s right to free speech/ free thought based purely on their gender. Yet at the same time you accuse them of having privilege, while implying you have less privilege when it comes to freedom of expression. Sorry, but that makes no sense. If a non-trans person behaved like you are behaving now and claimed their right to limit YOUR free speech/ free thought based on your status as a ‘transperson’ I’m sure you would claim oppression (and you’d be correct) and society would back you up. So here is a case of a human right that you enjoy (free speech/ free thought), which you say non-trans are somehow not entitled to. Yet you are defining them as privileged, and not you…?

    Or to put it another way, when we live in a society where the PERCEPTION of having privilege means being less entitled to free speech/ free thought, then whichever group in society is PERCEIVED as privileged is actually LESS privileged. And that would put cis, white, heteronormal, gender binary male men at the bottom of the hierarchy… which is what we find. They work the most hours, in the most demanding and dangerous jobs (they account for 95% of workplace deaths), they pay the most taxes and receive the least amount of welfare. They have the highest suicide rates, and are the most likely to suffer violent crimes and they receive longer prison sentences for the same crimes than any other demographic. They are society’s mules……and scapegoats!

    Also, I’d like to point out that a lot of transpeople do NOT regard ‘trans’ as their identity, but rather as their circumstance – or perhaps predicament is a better word. They identify as male of female, and NOT as trans. So unlike you, they naturally view all males/ females as equals to themselves with respect to the right to voice an opinion, because they do not consider themselves a separate demographic to others with the same gender as them, but rather part of the same demographic, who happen to have been born into a different circumstance/ predicament (just as women born into rainforest tribes and women born in NYC both identify as ‘women’ – but in different circumstances/ predicaments).

    > As a cisgender person, regardless of your other intersecting identities, you are privileged with spaces and resources that trans people are not afforded.

    Again, the opposite is the truth. We now find gyms and even bike shops are now starting to EXCLUDE non-transpeople, and recently a conference on ethnic and gender diversity in the University of London BARRED ENTRY to white males. You couldn’t make it up!

    “Safe spaces” is fast becoming a euphemism for SEGREGATION. And just like in the past, the excuse being given for it is that “it is in everybody’s best interests”.

    I gave three recent examples of segregation against non-trans people/ cis men … now I ask you to give one example of a business or institution that has a ‘no trans’ policy. Ready, steady, go….

    > While I certainly appreciate the support I have received from my family and peers, the “gosh, you’re just so brave” line is more than a little exhausting. We are people capable of all kinds of emotions: bravery and fear, celebration and crisis, love and pain, and plenty in between.

    This contradicts Point 1 where you expressed distress at having to listen to the opinion of a non-trans person. Are you ‘brave’ enough to endure opinions that might not match your own.. or not? Are you ‘brave’ enough to endure the discomfort (often as a result of the extra special treatment and care shown) of being the ‘odd one out’ in a gym or bike shop …. or not? You can’t complain that the mere opinions of other human beings hurts your feelz and that they must ‘shut up’, and then demand to be treated as brave. Sorry but that’s not how the real world works….. that’s called ‘demanding special treatment’ or simply ‘demanding privilege’ based on your status as trans.

    Men buying flowers or home furnishings or attending weight watchers might occasionally feel like the odd ones out, which can be uncomfortable, and they might on occasion have to endure quizzical looks from women. Should these men also demand ‘safe spaces’ like some in the trans community are now doing? Or is finding oneself, on occasion, in a minority just a natural part of everyday life – especially if you happen to belong to a minority demographic such as the ‘trans community’?

    Do you think ‘safe spaces’ and other forms of ‘special treatment’ might actually help to INCREASE the feeling of exclusion, isolation, ‘otherness’ and of not belonging to society? ….. as well as increase the sense that you cannot cope with being trans and being in a minority?

    > But we do drive the same streets as you, and go to the same schools as you, and shop in the same stores as you. If there are trans people in your life, remember we are more than our gender identities.

    So given that men, women, redheads, gays, trans, cat lovers, jugglers, submissives, astronauts and fat people are all united in being PEOPLE, is it safe to assume you agree that forced segregation is a step in the wrong direction?

    Are non-trans people also more than just their gender identities? If so, why do you claim in Point 1 that their opinion is not welcome? You seem to be saying trans/ non-trans people are all just ‘people’ one moment, and the next you are dictating who can say or do what based on whether they are trans or non-trans. Are you aware that you are exhibiting what’s known as ‘double think’?

    > And we also probably don’t want to talk to you about Caitlyn Jenner anymore.

    But whose fault is it that everyone is sick to death of her already?

    A) Non trans people for being subjected to articles about Caitlyn Jenner 24/7 in the media for the last few weeks?
    B) Caitlyn Jenner, for being such an unashamed media whore, and cashing in on her condition by selling her transition for money and making a profound and difficult life journey look kind of like some tacky and superficial lifestyle choice?

    No wait, let me guess….. It’s cis white able bodied heteronormal males who are at fault right? They strike again with their oppression! LOL

    > That doesn’t mean open season on questions about trans politics for any trans person you encounter.

    You are defining trans politics as if it only affects trans people. To me ‘trans politics’ would be the politics operating WITHIN the trans community. That is distinct from gender politics (or just ‘politics’) which affects everyone. As I have already pointed out non-trans people are increasingly finding themselves barred from the free market for the ‘crime’ of being born in the wrong gender. Therefore the subject of transgenderism is as much THEIR ISSUE as it is yours. If being barred from society based on gender doesn’t earn them a place on the roundtable of gender discussion, I don’t know what would.

    Did you know that the way you and other trans people behave in society also affects everyone else in society. To fail to understand this is called narcissism.

    It is entirely reasonable that non trans people would want to discuss and talk about these issues, just like you. But I suspect if they behaved like you and started telling transpeople when they could and could not broach the subject you would find that offensive. And if they held meetings barred transpeople from them you would also find that offensive.

    The point is gender belongs to everyone, and not just the ‘trans community’.

    > There are an abundance of transfolk writers, scholars, and activists that continuously publish work on any and all aspects of transgender identity, and they are certainly less likely to include/reproduce icky rhetorical errors and factual inaccuracies than cis people writing on the same things.

    Again, what they are really talking about is GENDER identity, and not just transgender identity, which would be how transgendered people identify within the demographic of the transgendered ‘community’. Non trans people also have their own gender and a gender identity which is just as valid and real. Transgendered people do not have a monopoly on discussions of gender, although increasingly they behave like they do.

    > Plus, reading a narrative that a trans person has published with the intent of being read is a much less invasive way of absorbing information than prodding your token trans acquaintance for answers.

    Non-trans people also have genders and gender identities, because all humans have them, and they also find the subject can be difficult – or just inconvenient – to talk about. Approaching any human and talking to them about their gender is potentially invasive, but at the same time we are all adults and part of being an adult is being able to cope with ‘grown up’ conversations about ‘grown up’ issues at appropriate moments. Again, this is not an issue which only affects to trans people.

    Respect and courtesy is a two way street.

    Having your thoughts, opinions and discussions about gender issues micromanaged by a complete stranger displaying narcissistic tendencies on the internet can also be felt as ‘invasive’ and offensive….. as can being barred from a shop or meeting open to the public for the crime of being born into the ‘wrong’ gender.

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    • Ah, yes. The old Derailing for Dummies playbook. http://www.derailingfordummies.com

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      • Ah, yes. Attack the messenger by accusing them of being oppressive rather than actually thoughtfully considering that the messenger is just expressing their point of view and is not an attempt at derailment. Closing off all discussion – using only sarcasm and accusation seems to be your fall back response. You want non trans people to listen to your point of view and accept it unquestioningly and without discussion. Otherwise they are only worthy of your disdain and sarcasm. Or accusation of malintent. I have never in my life experienced any group that assumed that their rights supersede any other oppressed group and whine continuously that they are the most oppressed group who are entitled to step on anyone else to gain all the entitlements they feel they deserve. I have always considered myself very liberal, very much against oppression of minorities including the LGBT… community however my up close and personal encounters with the trans movement has made me start to question what this particular group really stands for and to even question whether transition is the best and healthiest approach to gender non conformity and dysphoria. Maybe it is the trans activists who flood the web who are giving me this impression but they seem to be a narrow minded, self centered bunch who use agression and suppression towards anyone who does not march to the exact beat of their transgender drum. Any mis step, any question is not tolerated. It seems almost like a facist movement that seeks to control the message and to control freedom of expression. The fact that bloggers feel they must hide their identity for fear of personal attack and threats by trans activists in the trans community is a perfect example of this totalitarianism. This movement is like none other I have seen in my lifetime. It is ugly and a light needs to be shone on these ugly tactics used to control the message received by society. I admire the gay rights movement that finally is winning the right to marry . I admire the black rights movement and the fight for justice for racial minorities. I admire the “black lives matter” fight and the fight to decriminalize drugs and to reduce the number of people in prison, particularly black people. I admire the fight for women’s rights. But this trans movement is regressive – reinforcing gender oppression – and is ugly in it’s policing of free thought and in it’s threatening attacks not only on expression but on the livelihood personal life of anyone who just presents a different point of view. This is not a movement to admire.

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      You sound nervous, honey. I think maybe it’s because it’s starting to dawn on you that you’ve got a lot of growth & change to look forward to. Because, for the rest of your life, THIS is the direction society is moving in, and those good old days of unchecked privilege to remain oblivious to these issues are never, ever, ever coming back.

      Move forward. 🙂 The twentieth century was awesome for white dudes, but it’s over now.

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      • the author doesn’t want change. the author wants to preserve his right to whine and moan and dictate to others how to feel. you see… positive change would get in the way of all those privileges. there’d be no more fun dictatorial editorials for us ignie “cis”sors.

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      • > You sound nervous, honey.

        Well obviously. I just showed three examples of blatant and unapologetic discrimination / segregation based on gender and race that have recently occurred in our supposedly progressive society. Of course that makes me nervous! Doesn’t it make you nervous?

        Obviously, I get what you are insinuating (and that makes me twice as nervous), but I really want you to say it out loud in a public forum – if you dare. So I ask you: In your opinion are there any specific genders or races that you think it’s OK to discriminate against and segregate from the rest of society? If so please name which ones they are?

        If not then we agree after all (if only in public, in your case).

        > The twentieth century was awesome for white dudes, but it’s over now.

        OK, that’s your claim. I am now going to test your claim by reversing the genders. If you are right, women will now seem like the privileged gender, instead of men. Are you ready? Let’s do it.

        During the twentieth century women were forced to go to war for the state – to kill others, and be probably killed themselves – in return for the right to ‘vote’. Meanwhile, men were divided on whether or not to demand this same right to vote because a lot of men didn’t really want to be forced to go and fight wars along with all the women soldiers. As a result many men vehemently opposed men’s suffrage and wrote pleading letters to the newspapers of the day opposing it. But in the end a group of ‘radical’ and ‘passionate’ (ie violent and thuggish) men committed acts of domestic terrorism, which are still celebrated to this day, such as trying to pin a banner on the King’s horse during a horserace, which could have easily caused multiple human and horse fatalities (as it turned out the terrorist died and the poor woman rider whose horse trampled him was so traumatised by the event she eventually took her own life).

        So anyway, thanks to terrorist acts like these, men were quickly granted the right to vote WITHOUT any obligations at all. This male privilege was granted to men by an all female parliament, who understood that society would never tolerate sending men to war zones! This new male privilege meant men were able to vote for wars, and then have women as young as 18 forced to fight them on their behalf. And if any of these young women refused to fight they were put in a cage, or if they refused to fight while on the battlefield they were simply shot. And that is how millions of women (as young as 18) were slaughtered throughout the 20th century in various wars, which the men did not have to fight. Not only did men do nothing to stop this (and a 5 million man protest in London or Washington surely would have had some effect), but some men actually gave women pacifists a white flower as a symbol of shame and social disapproval. And even to this day men still are quite open about finding the sight of a woman dressed in the costume of a state hired assassin to be a big turn on. Men routinely pay to watch women dressed as killers perform strip tease acts on stage, and glorifying (and let’s face it, objectifying) females as robotic killing machines has always been major part of men’s romance novels and romantic movies for the last century.

        Women also did the majority of the manual labour and other dangerous and gruelling jobs for the last century (and the last 5000 years), which they still do to this day, which is why 95% of workplace deaths today are women. And women pay the MOST taxes, but receive the LEAST amount of benefits from those taxes because the majority of tax money is spent on men. Women were expected to provide financially for their husbands, and even today a man who financially supports his wife is a rare thing, with most women contributing the majority of household income – although men control 80% of it. This combination of financial support from the state and from their wives, allows most men the luxury of being able to choose careers that pay more in terms of job satisfaction, flexibility, reduced hours, a pleasant workplace environment and a job in line with their own interests or hobbies. The fact of the matter is that men can AFFORD to choose lower paying jobs – but which pay more in non-financial ways – because they get more financial support from women, both directly (wives/ GFs) and indirectly (taxes). Even today plenty of men can afford to not work at all and just be househusbands, which is perfectly socially acceptable. But if a woman lives as a housewife who is financially supported by her husband she is looked down upon as a parasite and a bit of a loser. But this rarely happens because most men demand their wives or GFs earn at least as much – if not more – than they do.

        The rape of a woman was only legally recognised as a ‘thing’ in the US in the last decade, whereas rape laws have protected men going back to the 10th century at least. Even male slaves had laws which protected them – but never female slaves. And in the latest CDC rape study the forced envelopment of a man is defined as rape, whereas forced penetration of a woman is NOT defined as rape. This skews the statistics and results in the public perception that women are rarely raped, when the actual figures show women are raped almost as much as men. Girls are more likely to be severely sexually assaulted (ie penetrated) than boys. And in the same study women suffer nearly three times as much domestic violence from men, than men suffer from women. But there are still virtually no shelters or charities for women, but thousands for men. If a man hits a woman on the street he is likely to be cheered by passers by ….. but if a woman hits a man on the street she will likely be tackled by a passer by, restrained, the police called and she will be arrested, even if it was all in self defence.

        Women are forced to work longer than men before retiring, even though women die sooner. Women have no reproductive rights, whereas men have full reproductive rights. Divorce laws and custody laws favour men over women. Women are sentenced more harshly than men for the exact same crimes. And while it is against the law to mutilate a baby boy’s genitals it is still legal in most western countries to mutilate a baby girls genitals.

        And lastly, and perhaps most tellingly of all, advocating for men’s issues and men’s rights is openly championed in society, whereas anybody (male or female) advocating for women’s issues or women’s rights is swiftly attacked, demonised and socially ostracised. The very idea of ‘women’s rights’ or ‘women’s issues’ is treated as a joke, as are women themselves. Kick a man in the nuts – that’s violent assault. Kick a woman in the ovaries and that’s hilarious ha ha 🙂 This perfectly illustrates women’s role in society.

        OK. We’ll stop there. Now that we have reversed the genders, which gender has just enjoyed an ‘awesome’ century, full of privilege? Men or women?

        > and those good old days of unchecked privilege to remain oblivious to these issues are never, ever, ever coming back. Move forward

        Ah yes ‘forward’ is your declared destination! That ‘blank scrabble piece’ of a destination favoured throughout history by psychopathic rulers and generals leading their populations or armies into slavery, tyranny, cultural oblivion and social collapse.

        Forward = Don’t ask where, just follow me!

        Here’s an alternative idea. How about we move towards a society that respects ALL manifestations of gender, race, sexual orientation and lifestyle?

        Would you agree to support that …. or would you prefer to class certain genders/ races/ orientations and lifestyles as inherently inferior and therefore not deserving of basic human rights? If that’s your stance, at least have the guts to say it out loud.

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      • Totally irrelevant to the point he/she made….

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    • “4. It Is Not Reverse Transphobia

      The attempt to turn the cis argument around so that cis people are the victims and trans people are the oppressors is an abuse tactic against trans people.”
      Courtesy http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/01/being-called-cis-is-not-oppressive/

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      • ^— what a bunch of hokum. look, this isn’t war ok? you want it to be war because it would make your lives oh so much more meaningful, but i hate to say it, there isn’t a war here, and trans people are not special, so find meaning in your life by some other means. nobody is special. do trans people want equality, or do they simply want to overturn the current situation such that trans people get to dictate society’s opinions on gender and whatnot? do trans people want the oppression to stop or do they simply want to be the oppressors themselves based on feelings of vengeance?

        no disrespect, but we’re merely exposing the author’s hypocrisy. be the change you want to see. if the author doesn’t want to be treated like a dick, then perhaps he shouldn’t go so far as to elicit these reactions with his reaction-eliciting commentary. that’s a dick move, if i say so myself.

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      • every day feminism…….defiantly a place that bases its claims from peer reviewed scientific literature.
        Hahahahaha, fuck you!

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      • And the trans argument that trans people are the victims and cis people are the oppressors is an abuse tactic against cis people. (Who thought up the term “cis” anyway that is constantly used in a demeaning and derogatory way by so many in the trans community?And who set up this dichotomy of “cis” vs “trans”. It certainly was not those you label as “cis”. Non trans people do not like be set up as the bogey man. Trans people claim the right to self identify according to their felt sense of who they are. Is there not any irony that at the same time they feel they have a right to identify others as “cis” even if those so called “cis” people don’t self identify as “cis”? Most folks don’t feel comfortable with their gender yet they do not choose to label themselves in any way. Just because they do not self identify as gender queer or trans or some other new gender box does not automatically make them “cis” or automatically make them a group that you can tell to “shut up”, listen and read my trans propaganda only, and by the way- give me $1000 bucks for cosmetic procedures.
        Most, so called, “cis” people in society have no clue about anything about transgender people. The only exposure they have is through the main stream media. Only those who have relatives or close friends who are trans generally get an up close and personal look. Being told in your first exposure that you are “cis”, you are an oppressor and you are priviledged and you need to check your priviledge and you need to unquestioningly support the trans person’s quest for transition or else be cut off and rejected by your loved one is extremely hurtful. This blog is written in that same tone.
        I really wonder if the real reason many transpeople avoid intellectual discourse is because at some level they realize the weaknesses, and inconsistencies of their positions will have too much light shone upon them. I have noticed that most often when a good critical point is made in response to a transgender post the transgender response is to just keep calling anyone who is critical an oppressor or transphobic or a TERF or worse. At least this blog has been more civilized than what is seen in the blogosphere where critical thinkers are threatened with rape or death and vile language replaces all discourse. You are not winning any converts by the tactics currently used. Most people in the general public want to live and let live. But if you keep pushing in this way and trying to force everyone to see things the way you do and not allow anyone in a public forum to engage a different point of view – there will be backlash. I think you are starting to see it in the comments from the last NYT’s opinion piece. Many people are not happy.

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    • yes, yes, and yes. i couldn’t have put it better myself curiosa. a very logical, methodical means of showing the author’s weak points.

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    • Thank you for this perfect illustration of exactly what cis people should not be, and providing excellent evidence

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      • Thank you for this perfect illustration of exactly what cis people should not be, and outlining exactly the sort of bullshit people have to live with.

        Gender is everyone’s? No, everyone has gender. But only trans people get told that their gender is wrong, that’s it’s sinful, that it’s dirty or simply that they are mistaken about their gender.

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      • Excuse me but I think trans people are the only people who feel they can pick any gender

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      • Did you pick your gender? Or did you just become aware of it, as something that felt correct about you? Would you be happy if everyone decided to start treating you as a different gender from the one you identify as? Trans people don’t pick their gender, they just have to battle to get other people to recognise that they’re the experts in themselves.

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      • God picked my gender…

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      • If you believe that, then why would you believe that you know more about what someone else’s gender should be than God? God doesn’t make mistakes – a person who is born experiencing one gender but being incorrectly assigned another isn’t wrong. That’s who they were born as, and we should treat them as the person they are, not the person we decide they should be. Nowhere in the Bible does it specify that only people with particular physical characteristics are men or women. I definitely remember something about “love one another as I have loved you” though – without judgement, without condemning, without criticising or pontificating about how we know what God wants and other people are sinners.

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      • Lmfao if you were born with a 🍆 you reflect Adam the 1st man ….

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      • Please can you tell me which verse of the Bible tells us this? Also, what is that symbol representing? I want to be sure I understand what you are saying.

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      • Genesis 3:16English Standard Version (ESV)

        16 To the woman he said,

        “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;
        in pain you shall bring forth children.
        Your desire shall be for[a] your husband,
        and he shall rule over you.”

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      • That symbol represents the males sexual organ exposed…

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      • I believe that verse defines a woman vs. man highlighting childbearing which refers to her natural state…

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      • So then she was created different with organs to bare children…. His manhood is the 🍆 that fits the puzzle

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      • Genesis 3:15
        I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.” So they both have children correct temptation ?

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      • Genesis 3:1
        Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” Crafty enough to scramble even the elite such as the emotional trans 😢

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      • So in my opinion a trans was so close to heaven they had to commit the ultimate sin to stray far away 😢😭

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      • If I was an 😇 I would fear for the Trans most of all because they are the kindest of the all however they lie to all contradict 💔 John 8:44
        You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and has nothing to do with the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

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      • 2 Corinthians 12:7
        7 So to keep me from becoming conceited because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations,[a] a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to harass me, to keep me from becoming conceited. 😭😢

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      • ◄ Genesis 3:1 ►
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        New International Version
        Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

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      • I’m under the impression the snake bit trans people

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      • hermaphrodites are the only people who truly battle with gender

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      • Trans people don’t like themselves

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      • When I was born I didn’t know color until someone taught me… I question the person who taught you…

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      • > Gender is everyone’s? No, everyone has gender. But only trans people get told that their gender is wrong, that’s it’s sinful, that it’s dirty or simply that they are mistaken about their gender.

        Hello May, please read my comment again. I gave *specific examples* where non-trans people were recently barred entry to public spaces/ public gatherings based solely on their (apparently) ‘wrong’ gender.

        I am suggesting we treat all genders and all gender identities and expressions equally by affording them all basic human rights.

        Apparently this is a controversial and even an offensive stance…..

        And it hardly needs saying, but feminist theory (patriarchy theory) claims males have systematically oppressed females throughout history, and some branches of feminism even claim the oppression of women is an *inherent* aspect of maleness,….. you know, just like how another group once said that black people were *inherently* savages or thieves or rapists.

        So if that isn’t an example of a large and influential group claiming a cis-gender is ‘wrong’ I don’t know what is.

        Also, not all trans people identify as ‘trans’ (as if trans were an actual gender). A lot of trans people identify as male or female. The treatment of ‘trans’ as if it were a gender (or a non gender) in its own right is a relatively new phenomenon.

        My point being if a trans person identifies as male or female then the insistence on segregating society into ‘trans’ and ‘cis’ actually prevents them from fully integrating as they would like to, and expressing (and enjoying!) their natural gender.

        And finally, I think it’s fair to say the majority of hate/ ridicule/ persecution directed at trans people is directed at MtF’s – and specifically those who cannot ‘pass’ as female very well due to size, bone structure and so on. In general they are attacked not because they identify as female, but because they are perceived as male. There is a difference. After all, cis-women are not usually attacked for identifying as female are they?

        Therefore it is really an attack on a male, and not on a female or a ‘trans’, because the target of any act of persecution is always defined by who the persecutor THINKS he or she is attacking (in this case a male in a dress, to put it bluntly)

        For example, if you put dog poo through the letterbox of an elderly lady, but you meant to put it through the letterbox of your ex boyfriend who lives next door (it was dark and you were drunk) then it is not really fair for anyone to accuse you of being anti-old ladies, is it?

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      • Yep, nervous.

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    • No but like actually, shut up.

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    • I could go on ad nauseum to you little diatribe that you must have spent a bit of time writing in response to this article. And I could hazard a guess that your an angry white dude, but I won’t; because you wouldn’t hear the message. I’ll end with, get your head and your outrageous ego out of your own ass.

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      • > I could go on ad nauseum to you little diatribe that you must have spent a bit of time writing in response to this article.

        If you have any ACTUAL criticisms of the SPECIFIC points I made, please feel free to provide some kind of reasonable counter-argument. So far nobody has been able to.

        > And I could hazard a guess that your an angry white dude, but I won’t; because you wouldn’t hear the message.

        So you think championing equal humans rights and defending the human rights of men and boys is something that only ‘angry white men’ do?

        Interesting. Does that include white trans men? Or do you think trans men can’t qualify as real men?

        BTW I am none of the things you suspect I am…… although I will (with much sadness) concede that in our current culture very few women ever stick up for the rights of men and boys. It is almost unheard of, so in that respect I understand your assumptions.

        > I’ll end with, get your head and your outrageous ego out of your own ass.

        So no actual arguments then. Shame. You believe sticking up for the rights of men and boys, and championing equal human rights is ‘outrageous ego’. A psychologist would have a lot to say about that.

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    • and my god how conceited do you have to be to think that safe spaces (the few!! places you are not allowed to go) is segregation against you?? do you deserve to be everywhere?? no

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      • > do you deserve to be everywhere??

        I believe everybody has equal human rights…….. even white people and men. I know, I know it’s crazy that someone might stick up for the rights of white people and men.

        ‘Safe spaces’ implies it is somehow dangerous for trans people to enter a bike shop or gym if there are non-trans people inside. But that simply is not true.

        Statistically speaking children are more at risk of sexual abuse from women than from men, and yet some airlines don’t allow men to sit next to children on flights. That is sexual discrimination/ segregation and it is justified by an argument that applies more to women than to men!

        Do you support this sexual kind of sexual discrimination against men?

        White people are in a minority in predominantly black neighbourhoods (obviously), and in those areas black crime is prevalent. Do you support the idea of white people being able to lock black people out of shops for an hour or two so they can (as a minority group) shop in a ‘safe space’ without worrying about black people looking at them the wrong way?

        Or would you find that offensive?

        What’s the difference?

        What you are basically telling me is that you think treating all races and genders as equal is ‘conceited’. That defines you as racist/ sexist who does not think all humans deserve the same human rights.

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  13. “Inspiration porn”—–well said!

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  14. I belong to a church in Arkansas that has actively recruited LBGT people as members. We have non-gender restrooms. We don’t distinguish among our members. We have a young priest/curate who has taken up the cause on tv and in the newspaper. I am very proud of us. We are just us. We have parties and drink wine. Come join us.

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  15. Also, thanks for the list. I enjoyed reading your article. Write on.

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  16. I am against everyone… When it pertains to carving thy self a graven image…

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  17. My self-esteem leads me to believe…. A gay man is so infatuated with the woman species he couldn’t appreciate himself how could he love someone else?

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  18. Wait ? So you’re not happy being you? You’re gonna build a new who? God doesn’t make mistakes you do….

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    • You pious folks like to judge everyone and then claim it’s not you. It’s God. Pretty convenient. There is no God. You’re living a lie. It’s just you and your fear and hate.

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      • You transgenders think everyone has to have sympathy because you not happy being you.. Reality check you hate the real you so you pretend to be what you are not ..

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      • ◄ Leviticus 20:13 ►
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        “‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.

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      • Are you suggesting we should murder trans, and gay people!! This same Bible also supports the murder of innocents in an event called “Passover” I say take yer judgement cap off and leave it to God. Why? Cause it ain’t yer job. Salem Witch Hunts are over! Get over it!

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      • No I’m not saying kill anyone … Someone said God promotes being a trans and Leviticus 20:13 says no way

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      • What I said was trans people take the spot light away from the only people who have a reason for any sexuality confusion hermaphrodites other than that…

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      • That isn’t true. “Trans” people as you refer to them, like any other folks trying not to be oppressed (whether it is sex, race, religion etc.) are not trying to take the spotlight away from anyone. They’re just asking not to be ignored. And furthermore not to be abused. And how can you claim that the “only people who have a reason for any sexuality confusion hermaphrodites other than that…” is a true statement? It comes off as ignorant. As if anyone would purposefully choose to be confused!! It’s clear you speak from a very narrow perspective. Confusion can happen to anyone at any time regarding almost anything. I get confused trying to remember which phone number to offer, or which email…never mind the difficulties of sexuality. NO ONE!!! NO ONE!!!! would purposefully choose to become a trans-sexual, or gay person. I mean who would want to listen to cruel comments, be beaten up all the time, have people disregard you and treat you much like you do right here with contempt and putdowns… ah the constant disrespect. Kids commit suicide when they’re exposed as being gay or trans. Over and over we’ve seen them succumb to bullying! I can’t advocate that!! You’re born being told what you are…and then to discover you aren’t that “thing” people tell you, you are supposed to be, must be one of the most difficult agonizing things in the world to experience. A constant self denial as you try to fit into the box society insists you belong in. It is as if stoning verbally is completely approved of by our society and it seems we haven’t left “The Dark Ages” at all. If folks could wash off being “trans” or “homosexual” don’t you think they’d want to with as much hell as we kick at them?!! And finally it’s like being black or brown (like me) you can’t just wash it off because someone else doesn’t like it or approve. Can you wash off your sexuality? Your being “straight.” Can you wash off your color? Yep, didn’t think so…so are you suggesting God who gave each of us our color and sexuality is wrong…because it is a GENETIC predisposition not some social choice as you’d like to reduce it to…check it out?!! The Bible has a long history of racism – The House of Abraham has long held sway over Christians, Islamics and Jews…I frankly don’t like the way some (SOME) Islamics still continue to stone people to death, shame people, just as many Christians do. Haven’t we had enough of SHAME CULTURE?!!!!! Nah…you’re holding on desperately to a religion that persecutes (though to be clear many Christians and Islamics aren’t so narrow minded). There is much good in Christianity…get yer head out of The Old Testament. Focus on the Gospel of Jesus…yeah, that guy…the one hanging around with the “criminals” the rabble rouser and “punk” rebel of His Time. Learn more about Biology, read more of your Bible, but before you cast a stone you might as well pull that plank out of your own eye. http://www.salon.com/2015/06/13/the_bibles_racist_monstrosities_how_the_word_of_god_has_been_%E2%80%94_and_still_is_%E2%80%94_used_to_oppress/

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      • Nature told them what they were

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      • Historian said one plus one equals two I see they were right … Now what if non believers did a study in the past and the study found that these unnatural relations where causing unnatural havoc within nature being connected

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      • I didn’t say I was a non-believer. I actually went to a Jesuit University. Trust me it is a REQUIREMENT that all Religions and not just Christianity have to be studied in order to graduate. I believe more than I ever have. I just don’t like to use The Bible to cloud my judgment nor refute science. I don’t think Science and God are disconnected. I think Science does a great job of showing us the Greatness of God. But it doesn’t rely on a bunch of Jewish men coming up with shoulds and woulds and can’ts and don’ts. There is much wisdom in The Bible just as there is much racism, adultery, stoning, executions and wrath. The Bible is a book of guidelines. But taken out of context and it can be used to be abusive. I continue to believe in God. I just don’t believe everything written in a book that was written over 3,000 years ago. Just because Passover happened doesn’t mean it is RIGHT that the God of Abraham (in The Bible) killed Egyptian children. The fact is if it homosexuality and transexualism were unnatural statistically speaking it would have already run its course (homosexuality, trans-sexual, etc. would no longer be in existence because they can’t reproduce). Instead what you see is that people of all sexual persuasions exist. And animals too, in nature regardless of whether they can or obviously CAN’T read The Bible still exhibit homosexual behavior. You can’t help how you are born. Are you saying God f’d up by making some bears homosexual? Cairbou, Bison, Dolphins…the list is long. I don’t think God makes mistakes. I think humans do all the time. Why would God give animals homosexual behavior as well? C’mon…it’s basic science!! I can’t fight God on that one…neither can you. The fact is is that these behaviors are exhibited not just in the Human Arena but in The LIVING arena God created. I can’t assume because it exists God didn’t create it. How can you? Yeah, The Bible – written by men – NOT GOD in a world that was much smaller and filled with a perspective ground in Jewish Tradition. Also, have you really done any research? The Bible is almost a complete knock off of Sumerian tales. And The Commandments…a rip off of The Egyptian 40 commandments. Even Adam and Eve’s story was a rip off of a previous societies – Sumerian (as in existed before the Monotheism of Judaism or Christianity – besides there are thousands of myths that The Bible mimics) commandments. Nah…God wouldn’t have made all types of peoples’ genetically speaking if God didn’t want it. You seem to think a sexual state is a choice of Free Will. It isn’t. I’ll state again, you can’t wipe off your color. Just like you can’t wipe off your sexual preferences. If it weren’t natural it wouldn’t occur to almost all animals in the animal kingdom. You can’t speak for God. The Bible is only a book and can’t speak for God either. No one can. And yes The Bible can be quite beautiful but you’ve missed the point of the Bible. To find God’s love not use God’s “words” (man’s words) against his/her/its own creation.

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      • The belief in ancestors and so forth and so on

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      • Ancestor worship I suppose Ables blood was able to cry out from the ground when it started

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      • I love how insistent you are that your perspective of Bible interpretation is the Final Word. The fact is rank and file Christians (even though you claim you are not you deny this by insisting you believe in The Bible and that means you’d have to be Christian if you accept The New Testament) not all of them…but many of the rank and file believe that “The Bible is The Word of God straight from God’s mouth. The Bible was not handed to mankind by God, nor was it dictated to human stenographers by God. It has nothing to do with God. In actuality, the Bible was VOTED to be the word of God by a group of men during the 4th century.” “According to Professor John Crossan of Biblical Studies at DePaul University the Roman Emperor Constantine the Great (274-337 CE), (a bust of Constantine is pictured below) who was the first Roman Emperor to convert to Christianity, needed a single canon to be agreed upon by the Christian leaders to help him unify the remains of the Roman Empire. Until this time the various Christian leaders could not decide which books would be considered “holy” and thus “the word of God” and which ones would be excluded and not considered the word of God.
        Emperor Constantine, who was Roman Emperor from 306 CE until his death in 337 CE, used what motivates many to action – MONEY! He offered the various Church leaders money to agree upon a single canon that would be used by all Christians as the word of God. The Church leaders gathered together at the Council of Nicaea and voted the “word of God” into existence. (I wish to thank Brian Show for pointing out in his rebuttal to this article that the final version of the Christian Bible was not voted on at the Council of Nicaea, per se. The Church leaders didn’t finish editing the “holy” scriptures until the Council of Trent when the Catholic Church pronounced the Canon closed. However, it seems the real approving editor of the Bible was not God but Constantine!” Constantine was a Pagan up until the moment of his death. A book written by men to control people voted on by an Emperor who was a Pagan…sigh…””Therefore, one can easily argue that the first Christian Bible was commissioned, paid for, inspected and approved by a pagan emperor for church use.” “In the landmark work by H.G. Wells, The Outline of History, Vol. I, pages 462-463, we read, “It (the Council of Nicaea) marks the definite entry upon the stage of human affairs of the Christian Church and of Christianity as it is generally understood in the world to-day. It marks the exact definition of Christian teaching by the Nicene Creed.” “Constantine ordered and financed 50 parchment copies of the new “holy scriptures.” It seems with the financial element added to the picture, the Church fathers were able to overcome their differences and finally agree which “holy” books would stay and which would go. ” “To quote Thomas Paine, “Were man impressed as fully and as strongly as he ought to be with the belief of a God, his moral life would be regulated by the force of that belief; he would stand in awe of God and of himself, and would not do the thing that could not be concealed from either. To give this belief the full opportunity of force, it is necessary that it acts alone. This is Deism. But when, according to the Christian Trinitarian scheme, one part of God is represented by a dying man, and another part, called the Holy Ghost, by a flying pigeon, it is impossible that belief can attach itself to such wild conceits. . . .”
        “But by what authority do you call the Bible the Word of God? for this is the first point to be settled. It is not your calling it so that makes it so, any more than the Mahometans calling the Koran the Word of God makes the Koran to be so. The Popish Councils of Nice and Laodicea, about 350 years after the time the person called Jesus Christ is said to have lived, voted the books that now compose what is called the New Testament to be the Word of God. This was done by yeas and nays, as we now vote a law.

        “The Pharisees of the second temple, after the Jews returned from captivity in Babylon, did the same by the books that now compose the Old Testament, and this is all the authority there is, which to me is no authority at all. I am as capable of judging for myself as they were, and I think more so, because, as they made a living by their religion, they had a self-interest in the vote they gave.

        “You may have an opinion that a man is inspired, but you cannot prove it, nor can you have any proof of it yourself, because you cannot see into his mind in order to know how he comes by his thoughts; and the same is the case with the word revelation. There can be no evidence of such a thing, for you can no more prove revelation than you can prove what another man dreams of, neither can he prove it himself.

        “It is often said in the Bible that God spake unto Moses, but how do you know that God spake unto Moses? Because, you will say, the Bible says so. The Koran says, that God spake unto Mahomet, do you believe that too? No.

        “Why not? Because, you will say, you do not believe it; and so because you do, and because you don’t is all the reason you can give for believing or disbelieving except that you will say that Mahomet was an impostor. And how do you know Moses was not an impostor?”

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      • What if I said God spoke to me ?

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      • Patience is made a condition of success and prosperity. O ye who believe! persevere in patience and constancy; vie in such perseverance; strengthen each other; and fear Allah; that ye may prosper. (Al’Imran 3:200)

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      • Reincarnation would say that Moses and Mohammed could have been the same person different time

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      • But you’re not a Buddhist. Get your religions straight. Nor are you a Hindi.

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      • I only believe in God… Not Jesus or nobody else

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      • So then you do what you accuse others’ of…you interpret things as would suit you and claim it is “The Right” thing…that’s called cognitive dissonance. You don’t know you are right. You can’t speak for God. You only speak about The Bible and those are two very different “things”

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      • How can you say you believe in God when you say God made mistakes? Called God’s creations – homosexuals and transexuals sinful…nah! You are just like the rest of us…you choose and pick as suits you and you have no definable proof. You just are going by what you FEEL. And that’s not BIG enough for me. Your view…vision – your Biblical Version is just too small for The Real World. There are all these things outside it that you have to put down….that you call sinful without really sitting at the right hand of God how can you know? You don’t. You do hold onto it pretty tightly but what if you gave up – let go of what you grasp…I promise you if it is true it will come back to you…at least true for you. But as long as you use it as a weapon your voice is lost along with all the rest of The Christian/Islamic/Jewish Fundamentalists who refuse to be tolerant.

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      • I’ve read Buddhism Hinduism ect

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      • Technically if the whole world was Pangaea I’m all of them

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      • Again, are you talking about The Bible or going off topic here and talking about pre-Human as is Pangea.

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      • Okay I will riddle me this why did the Lord say come let’s go down and confuse their language they will not understand each other if he such a good person?

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      • The Lord? Don’t you mean the interpretation of The Lord by a Jewish Man? And see there you go again offering the Lord as a Kali like figure of Destruction. What you are suggesting is a non- biological understanding of why their are different races. Because if we believe in The Adam and Eve story the incest and Malthus’ theory of exponential math would suggest we’re all in bred…how else would the world be filled with different populations? God isn’t trite and petty like people. God isn’t spiteful.

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      • New International Version (NIV)

        5 But the Lord came down to see the city and the tower the people were building. 6 The Lord said, “If as one people speaking the same language they have begun to do this, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them. 7 Come, let us go down and confuse their language so they will not understand each other.”

        8 So the Lord scattered them from there over all the earth, and they stopped building the city. 9 That is why it was called Babel[a]—because there the Lord confused the language of the whole world. From there the Lord scattered them over the face of the whole earth. And this on?

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      • Yeah I got it…I already told you that this was The Bible’s way of xplaining why there are different languages…geesh. Seriously? And yet there were Chinese people as long as 2.4 million years ago…none of which were hanging out in the Middle East waiting for a Bible Scripture and all of whom had lived in a society that was a millennium older than The Bible.

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      • Let’s just say I’m 33 right now and when I was I was 29 I had a rude fucking awaking….

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      • I’m 52 does the murder of my mother by my step brother count? How about the death of my step brother who killed her and then doused himself with gasoline. I could go on and on about rude awakenings. I’ve come close to death. I’ve lost everything more than once, been raped, divorced, cheated on, beaten,…what does that have to do with anything? You see I study God because I love God. I just don’t like God being used against people. God has love for EVERYONE. Sinner and non-believer alike. And why do we Humans have the need to insist what is Sin and what is not? God doesn’t need something as trivial as a rule book (though The Bible itself is not trivial – the way we use it can be) to point our fingers at others’ and worry about their sin when it is our own unforgiving hearts that need to be examined. Take care of your own issues. Show compassion. Quit using The Bible like a sledge hammer. You don’t need to. God will do what needs to be done if you actually believe. Do you actually think Jesus would want someone stoned to death for adultery? Do you actually think Jesus lacks the compassion you can’t seem to show for those struggling with issues of sexuality. Nah…you don’t need to play heavy handed. We live in a world where we can see Strong Armed tactics are just that. If we have to threaten and coerce, use punishment we won’t succeed…we can’t, it obviously hasn’t worked for millennium. Didn’t work in Babylon, doesn’t work now. God knows the hearts of humans. He doesn’t need us nor The Bible to keep us in line…that’s human behavior, humans using rules to manipulate other humans. God’s a sight big bigger than that don’t you think. And so what if Ham’s son saw him naked…do you really think God is that trivial as to make slaves as a result…your vision of God is small and cruel. My Gospel is one of Love and Acceptance. Let’s see venomous words and mean punishments vs compassion and an attempt at understanding…which hasn’t worked well we know the punishments but what will work…LOVE. That would be The Gospel.

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      • God is not a man that he should lie or change his mind and he doesn’t repent…

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      • Now that man Jesus you talking about he said come let us go down and confuse their language so they do not understand each other an scattered them abroad

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      • God is not man that he should tell a lie or change his mind so did Jesus change his mind he said he wanted to confuse the people and scatter them abroad

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      • Riddle me this? If Jesus saved the world from sin ? Why do we still sin?

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      • Why would you ask such a ? There are a lot of factors to why we sin. Much can be due to instinct. For example we have needed to in the past kill in order to survive. We don’t need to do that anymore now do we (unless you are in Syria, eh? But that’s a strong and aggressive instinct – the instinct for survival. And I never said Jesus saved the world through sin…I would say that through Jesus we can realize self actualization. And in that awareness find our Salvation. You over simplify The Bible. But sin and self actualization are entertwined. You can’t grow if you don’t know you are ignorant. You have short simple one sentence statements often from The Bible that over simplify our present Human Condition. Without any empathy for the path or the work to becoming a better person. How do you erase instinct? It’s called EVOLUTION. And how do you evolve a species…by showing the Human Condition and what Can and Could be… that was what the miracle of the cross was…showing us who we often are and who we can be. Jesus makes it clear we can be saved if we save ourselves. It isn’t some trivial list…it isn’t an arbitrary thing. As the prejudice of sexuality can be. God’s not a mean Stalinesque task master!! Each person has a different set of sins…The Bible collects them like dirt (and we humans revel in focusing in on them) that can’t be wiped away. The fact is instincts have kept us alive. You can’t think Jesus was unaware of them? A lack of compassion was one of the sins railed against by Jesus. So now’s the time to offer it!

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      • I’m an American so I choose to read out of the Bible the most because my native language

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      • oh and I labeled you a troll because you use The Bible as a punishment. You toss it around like you’re addicted to using it…some five finger death punch. You aren’t really offering any help to folks. Just put downs and a staunch refusal to provide any understanding. You use it as a weapon.

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      • No I just like reading and if something is pertaining to what I’ve read so be it …

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      • nah…there’s a kind way to share a message and then there’s the old one up put down which you offered and as you can see the very reaction was one of hostility. Who likes anyone pointing a finger in their face telling them they are a bad person. In fact that behavior is a bad and sinful behavior. God doesn’t need you as an enforcer.

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      • Did he tell u that? Or are you assuming?

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      • Nope I read it in that good book you’re always talking about.

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      • But we read that people should be stoned then…

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      • Wait why did the Lord say come let’s go down to confuse the people so they will not understand each other ?

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      • Or you could just actually study anthropology and realize that there were a few tribes around waaaaayyyy before The Bible.

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      • The serpent confused Adam and Eve and the then lord said lets confuse… And now gay people confused

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      • Why would someone want to confuse people?

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      • God wouldn’t and God didn’t. That’s your Bible for ya.

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      • Wrong. God is EVERYTHING. Seriously, your Bible says The World is only 6,000 years old. In other words Chinese People were around 200,000 years ago and 196,600 years before The Bible was even finished and yet you speak of it as if no one else existed before then. The fact is that The Bible is only 3,400 years old. How do you explain then that they’ve found fossils of Chinese dating to 200,000 years ago. Even if we speak of modern man that’s still 50,000 years ago…that’s still 46,600 years before The Bible was even a blink of an eye. Your Bible and mine is an amalgamation of stories of ancient cultures recreated into a text of its own culture. But as far as Be All End All’s it’s just copying from previous stories. ” Creation stories from all around the ancient world all have a common theme, where mankind is created from dirt, mud or clay by a divine being. These stories are all similar to the biblical Adam & Eve story. This similarity extends to the Tower of Babel and the Great Flood stories as well. The Alaskan Eskimos, ancient Egyptians, Japanese, and South Americans all tell us that their ancestors either were transported by their gods or their gods taught them their languages or writing. One place where you wouldn’t expect a creation story to be similar to the Adam & Eve epic, is Australia.

        The Aborigines in Australia tell of a creator being named Indjuwanydjuwa. Indjuwanydjuwa is said to have created this world. He created everything Himself. He created a man and a woman from the mud. He then told the man and woman to make more people to fill the country. This creator told the Aborigines they could eat the fruits of the plain, fish, turtles etc. “It tasted good,” He said.” Babble indeed see…there were people before The Bible’s Adam and Eve, OH MY!!

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      • You really would trust someone who decided to confuse?

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      • ? Not all who are trustworthy can be trusted all the time and not all who are deceitful are lying all the time. Again, an over simplification. I hate to break it to you but life isn’t black nor white but full of gray and myriad of other colors…just as humans are different…yeah I would trust something someone said by using my own brain regardless of whether or not they are trustworthy because I trust myself enough to be able to make a good decision. I don’t need to trust them in order to see the truth do I?

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      • and what part about it is actually assuming? Gospel teaches us Love. Hate is for the Sinners remember?

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      • Explain: Romans 1:26-27 ESV / 49 helpful votes

        For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.

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      • Crikey this reads like a missive from Torquemada’s Inquisition book. Give me a break. It’s 2015. And why would you assume that Jewish men and a Pagan emperor would actually KNOW the true word of God. If it were contrary to nature there wouldn’t be hundreds of animals that practice homosexuality. To suggest God put things in nature that are unnatural seems a bit presumptuous. C’mon now we were talking about evolution how can we Evolve if we’re still worried about something as trivial and biological as sexual partners. And why are you so stuck on the shame game. You could be a paparazzi on Daily Mail with the way you throw humiliation around.

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      • The serpent deceived Eve and I guess deception just stop right then … Well it didn’t and I see it

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      • Sumerian myth stolen by The Jews.

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      • And believe it or not the authors of The Bible twisted the Sumerian story into one of disrespect towards women. Wonder why that is? Yep…the old one up put down…! You need to study Sumerian history. You need to read religious texts pre Bible. Read The Egyptian Commandments (Bible stole ’em) of which there were 40 not only 10. There’s a lot you do know but a lot you haven’t studied. Until you can put The Bible in correct historical context – as having used other myths and also being a txt used from oral tradition all you’ll be able to do is quote from it. But you won’t be able to see it in context.

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      • If God intended on unnatural relations he would have made us unisex

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      • Everything is God. If God makes everything how can everything not be?

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      • How can anything be compared to God perfection

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      • ROMANS 15:1 (AMP) | CHAPTER

        15 We who are strong [in our convictions and of robust faith] ought to bear with the failings and the frailties and the tender scruples of the weak; [we ought to help carry the doubts and qualms of others] and not to please ourselves.

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      • So yes I believe Love is Love however wrong is wrong

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      • Now my intention is not to confuse my feelings with facts…

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      • That’s part of the confusion… Created with limited ability

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      • I believe the reason for stoning was to place fear in the people so no one would be confused

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      • So you think God created men to do what?

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      • Now you give me a break Adam and Eve didn’t get kicked out to bring more confusion people home…

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      • Again…this is an ancient Sumerian Legend The Jews stole. I think I’ll stick with the original Sumerian story rather than the one pilfered by The Jews. And again, why would God not want us to have knowledge nor deny us Eden because of that knowledge. Petty human attributes. Not the actions of God.

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      • forevermore143…have a good day. Wish you the best but I’m getting bored. Take care my friend. I hope you lessen your harshness with your so called theology. Open your heart. Listen to what God says. You don’t need anyone – The Bible included to help you understand. The Bible is merely a Tool. You have to know that. So use it as such…not as a weapon. Best!!

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      • Nope However I’m sure no one cared for what jesus said until after his death

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      • Except for the Apostles, Mary Magdalene, Joseph, his brother, all of his friends, heck even Pontius Pilate was worried. Again an extreme over simplification.

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      • Actually The Bible and the Quran have a lot of similar qualities with the exception of the Quran having a more visual concept

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      • All religion is messed up in some way shape form or fashion

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      • Now you’re starting to make a bit of sense. The one that seems the cleanest for me has been Buddhism. Not exactly what my Christian teachers were hoping for. My love of it that is.

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      • In the Bible ham saw his father naked and his father cursed him when he found out

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      • So ham was technically the first gay man

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      • Any lusted after his father let me find the story

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      • Everyone wasn’t meant to go to heaven

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      • 20 Noah began to be a man of the soil, and he planted a vineyard.[c] 21 He drank of the wine and became drunk and lay uncovered in his tent. 22 And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father and told his two brothers outside. 23 Then Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it on both their shoulders, and walked backward and covered the nakedness of their father. Their faces were turned backward, and they did not see their father’s nakedness. 24 When Noah awoke from his wine and knew what his youngest son had done to him, 25 he said,

        “Cursed be Canaan;
        a servant of servants shall he be to his brothers.”
        26 He also said,

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      • So a gay man started the curse of slavery

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      • A gay man thought it was cool to lust over his father and watch him sleep naked… Then hey bragged to his brothers about what he saw … They didn’t wanna see that 💩

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      • Birds of a feather flock together you mean the one that came to bring confusion

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      • The bright MorningStar as an Lucifer or the bright MorningStar is in Jesus or the bright MorningStar’s and they’re both the same

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      • I strongly believe in God… And you?

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      • I think confused trans take away from the ones that matter more hermaphrodites….

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      • Science … Genetically, there is only a 2% difference between men and male chimpanzees, whereas there is a 5% difference between men and women: thus there are twice as many differences between men and women than between men and male chimpanzees”

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      • Lol meaning: it’s easier for a man to be a monkey then a woman …

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    • Your comments almost make me understand how a trans person could become so angry and bitter as to write a piece like this in the first place.

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  19. You presume we care. I wish my life were so breezy and trouble-free that I had the capacity to take instructions from a condescending transgender. And what is Cis? Is that common knowledge? What an ego.

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  20. This article offends me, seriously, I felt offended after reading, even if I’m obviously not cis. I wonder how cis person would feel about it but probably it wouldn’t be nice to him/her.

    Dear activists, please, please when you say that you demand something from others, or suggest what others should do, talk for yourself not for all transpeople and for all community. It would be a lot better and make much more good work than aligning all of us into some kind of views or needs.

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    • thanks for writing that. as a well-intentioned cis, and an imperfect being, this blog made me inclined to group trans people all into one category and be defensive. that’s what shitty writing will do. however, that’s never the case. here is an author telling people to whom he cannot relate (cis) how to feel, all the while purporting that he is the spokesperson for the sentiments of the trans community. the whole blog reads like a dictatorial editorial.

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  21. Personally I find this whole thing exhausting, don’t label me anything because its annoying and stupid. Why do we even need labels anyway? Do we really need them to establish our identity as living beings on our planet? It just seems like another way for everyone to separate into different casts and be put into “groups”

    Everyone should be allowed the same human rights, I don’t really care what you identify as.

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  22. Such a fine collection of sockpuppets!

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  23. Reblogged this on drquacky.

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  24. Stephen Mpuquin June 10, 2015 — 9:16 pm

    Reblogged this on PUQUIN WORLD.

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  25. I would have taken all of these rules as common courtesy but I’m glad someone took the time to spell them out- common courtesy isn’t so common these days.

    Was fascinated to learn that ‘cis-gender’ is official terminology though, makes sense!

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  26. Senatssekretär FREISTAAT DANZIG June 10, 2015 — 9:55 pm
  27. Can anyone explain me difference between cis and trans people

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  28. Outstanding. Thank You. I hope You Celebrate You. And I hope Everyone In Your Life Celebrates You For Being You. Many Blessings
    Rebecca : Positive Thoughts Positive Life 4 Everyone

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  29. Reblogged this on mrktingmix and commented:
    Love it!

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  30. theforgottononesblog June 11, 2015 — 5:09 am

    Theforgottenonesblog.com

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  31. joeythebuddhist June 11, 2015 — 6:35 am

    Thanks for the great post 🙂 It’s awesome to see this dialogue building.

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  32. Just so you know- original blogger – if you continue to talk like this to people who are not trans and who are not familiar with trans issues – you will continue to antagonize people. If you are not open to hear or discuss any ideas or opinions or questions other than those totally accepted within the trans community, then you are living in an echo chamber and have stopped critical thinking processes. You may miss some valuable conversations. If your ideas and positions are strong they should be able to withstand open discussion. When you are not willing to engage in a discussion or address points made but instead just deride the person who tried to engage with you, the progress you claim to desire, cannot occur.

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  33. I don’t care about others like me but ..
    FROM ME
    TO you and LGBT community….
    LOVE and RESPECT.

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  34. Amazing. Perfect. My step daughter is trans teenager. As we watch the news and see stories of other trans teens committing suicide, her father and I count ourselves lucky that our families have been so supportive. The world she lives in is not the world we live in, and it is so sad that her exsistance is a cause for debate. People have this ignorant idea that if it doesn’t involve them directly then they shouldn’t be concerned with it. How many centuries do we have to listen to the same privledged group say the same tired line before there is a change. I am proud of her because of the wonderful person she is, and her success in life, as I am proud of all of our children. We support all of our children expressing and living a lifestyle that is true to them. That is what life is about.

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  35. Reblogged this on The Adventures of a Pissed Off Millennial and commented:
    A great read about what cisgender people can do for transgender people.

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  36. You find know what it’s like to be trans, so you can’t say anything. So just listen while I talk about “his” people.

    No, there’s no problem with that. Why are you laughing at me?

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